You have unpacked your cases and for a moment you taste the flavour of home. You look around entering all the rooms and you start counting.
Plants are thirsty. The dust has settled on the books on the chairs on the chandeliers and on the laptop. Settled your luggage, souvenirs, maps, looked at the payment receipts you find everywhere, you’re at home. The light seems different to you.
Do another round and here you see them.
They are right there where you left them, near the entrance next to the umbrella stand. And now they look at you.
Not now! Please, not now!
When you return and you, still, have the sweet taste of the days of freedom, far away from workloads, to-do-lists that never end, deadlines and payments, you don’t want to see any problem. But cheeky they are there.
You turn around and go into the living room looking for a way to get rid of unsolved problems. You ask yourself: why they are still there and haven’t left?
Here, this situation is very common. Come back from vacation is quite hard. Not because of the end of the holidays itself, but because the problem demands to be solved by you. Obviously!
The impulse is twofold: to continue procrastinating or face it head-on and solve it. If the problem has been dragged on for so long – not only will it seem more intricate to you – but groping to solve it in one shot, at the first difficulty you are going to meet, you will put it aside again. No more than less than when you did the previous time.
Although I don’t like mathematics, the first help comes from algebraic expressions.
To solve the problems, you can use the simple rule of expressions: the steps of the algebraic expressions clearly explain how to find the result.
Have you ever played an algebraic expression in one step? I know from other more competent people than me that more steps are needed.
So, a problem is solved in small steps, to keep the procedure under control and see if everything runs smoothly.
One way that I use – as I said before, math could be an opinion for me – is write down the problem adding details about what to do and how strategic it is for the solution.
But the most important aspect is (here we go again; the math pursues me) and to respect the resolution rule: you can’t start from the outside if you haven’t solved the inside
During coaching sessions, this situation often arises: a professional problem that the Customer assigns to factors external to himself often requires internal work by the Customer
Assigning the time to observe the problem in its entirety is an accurate starting point, understanding what it implies on an emotional level.
It is important to understand its size and possible offshoots: determining how long it will take will be strategic because you can choose when to take care of it, and you will know which part to work on. The analysis will show you the level of the task and will help you find the best way to act and if you need some support.
Aren’t you a person asking for help? Because it does bother you because you don’t want to talk about your problems? Learning to share the less appealing part of you it will help you to show your own humanity, but this is another speech we will talk about one other time.